#12 Keep moving

Have you ever noticed that you feel great after going to the gym or for a run?

The vast majority of have shown that there is an important link between exercise and mental well-being and improved mood.

The researchers of these studies consistently found that exercise has a positive impact on mood. It has been demonstrated that physical activity stimulates the release of endorphins, the “feel-good” chemicals in the brain. Some researchers think that exercise also acts as a diversion from negative thoughts. Also, some researches show that the social interaction taking place in some types of exercise, like team sport for example, contributes to a greater personal satisfaction and therefore a mood enhancement.

Something we don’t know is that exercise has also been studied as an alternative treatment to antidepressant medications and therapies used for depression; and it was concluded that exercise has an important clinical impact on depression.

Now to keep convincing you of the benefits of exercise, there are 16 reasons why exercise makes us happy:

1)    Increased dopamine in the brain (feelings of pleasure and happiness)

2)    Lower anxiety and depression (achieve long term relief)

3)    Energy boost

4)    Stress reducer

5)    Slow down cognitive decline

6)    More self confidence (feel a great sense of accomplishment)

7)    Be more social

8)    Get better sleep (improve sleep quality)

9)    Be more creative (better mood = creativeness)

10)  A more productive you

11)  Memory booster (increased memory capabilities)

12)  Be more relaxed

13)  Better coping skills

14)  Gets addiction under control (helps in addiction recovery)

15)  Enjoy the great outdoors

16)  Increase your brain power (good cardio can help to create new brain cells)

Lastly, some practical tips for exercise: try to engage at least 30 minutes of physical activity a day, try to vary the type of exercise you do and choose activities you enjoy, and keep in mind that even if you cannot do high impact workouts there are plenty of low impact activities such as biking, walking or even swimming !

SO REMEMBER TO KEEP MOVING NOW !

#11 Smile more often

Smiling more is a really simple way to live happier in your life. All you have to do is smile, and life will be better, really. It’s that simple. Smiling is the natural way to unconsciously force yourself to be happy. Smiling is very efficient and powerful, but many of us unfortunately use it less and less as they grow older, even though they need happiness more than ever before.

Latest research shows that our emotions like happiness aren’t just happening all in the brain. Parts of your body like your mouth can influence and reinforce your feelings.

Researchers think that by forcing a smile, you activate a specific set of muscles in the face which is closely connected to the emotions of happiness and joy. By smiling, you are signalling the emotional centres of your brain to tell them that everything is good.

Last thing you should remember: happiness leads to smiles but smiles also lead to happiness.

SO SMILE!

#10 Try new things

Experimenting and trying new things can boost your happiness in many various ways.

First of all, it can simply provide fun activities you can enjoy and which are obviously good for a certain type of happiness.
Then it can lead to learning new things and playing on curiosity that is also known to be good for happiness and wellbeing. 

Lastly, it can boost what psychologists call « self-efficacy » which means that people can come to the realisation that "if I can do this one thing then how many other things can I do?"... This type of confidence can be VERY GOOD for you’re your happiness and self-confidence.

If you want to become a happier person you should not be afraid to push your boundaries and try new things. It was proven that people who engage in a variety of experiences are more likely to retain positive emotions than people who have fewer experiences. 

By going beyond your comfort zone, you might actually surprise yourself and exceed your own expectations for what you are capable of doing. 

So why not trying something new?

#9 Live in the moment

It is clearly impossible to appreciate your present life if you spend most of your time regretting the past and fretting the future. Living in the present moment is the key to true happiness!

Life seems to slow down and become more manageable when you begin living fully in the present moment. You'll also find more energy -both physical and mental - when you stop to constantly micromanaging your mind.

Imagine waking each new morning filled with the excitement of not knowing exactly what the day will hold. Sure you may be going to your regular job and engaging many of your regular activities, but because you live in the moment there is no sense of turmoil or subtle resistance wearing you down.

And throughout each day, imagine the freedom you'll feel as you find and follow the flow of life. Rather than trying to talk yourself through every waking moment you will be listening to your intuition and acting according to your inner guidance system.

Never mind anything that has happened before right now. And let go of anything that might happen at a later time!

The author, Henry Miller once said “ Every moment is a golden one for him who has the vision to recognise it as such.” The only moment in which we can truly be happy is the present moment. The only moment over which we have control is the present moment. So be happy now! Because if not now, then when?

#8 Think positive

A famous quote of the Dailai Lama is: “See the positive side, the potential, and make an effort.” 

I have to admit that it is quite easy to fall prey to negative thinking. Having negative thoughts can only bring you pain, something that everyone has experienced many times throughout their life. 

Negative thoughts drain you of energy and keep you from being and enjoying the present moment. The more you give in to your negative thoughts, the stronger they become. A small negative thought can become a huge and ugly problem. Similarly, a small positive thought can have the same effect blossoming into a beautiful outcome.

When we start to have negative thoughts, it’s difficult to stop them. And it’s much easier said than done to shift your focus to positive thoughts. But it’s the only way to avoid going down a painful and unnecessary path.

The most important thing is to change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive, it's not as hard as we think. For example, instead of seeing things as issues to solve it would be positive to see it as challenges to overcome.

A little thing that surprisingly works is to place some post-it with positive quotes or sentences on the fridge, mirror, computer, where you can see them everyday, to keep in mind to stay positive.

#7 Travel

Travel is good for lots of things, but it can also increase your well-being - and sometimes in the long-term. Whether you are traveling for business or with your family, traveling can make you a happier person by building self-confidence, providing new experiences and memories, breaking routine and allowing you to meet people from very different places.

You can become more self-confident as traveling can make you deal with unexpected situations.

Even if you're the kind of person to plan things to the letter and by advance, things can take a surprise turn. Whatever happens, there is a way around the problem and knowing that you can deal with these situations is a big boost to self-confidence and your happiness.

Also, being away from things we often take for granted -family, close friends, home- makes us appreciate them more. Calling home becomes something to look forward to: your parents would be more than happy to hear about your travel stories.

Making new friends become easier as people are more open to talk to strangers on a bus or strike up conversation in a bar for example. When people are away from home, there seem to be less boundaries to cross, strangers can become your friends whether it’s a local curious to know where you’ve come from or travellers keen to have someone with whom to share a taxi. Social interactions make us happier and increasing our social circle allow us to learn more.

#6 Spend some time with your family

We don’t chose our familly. In any case, not where she comes from. But the family we are part of is our number 1 source of happiness.

Some researchs conducted on happiness have shown that regardless of age, gender, culture, socio-economic background, it is indeed love, friendship and parenting that are the first ingredients of happiness.

The meaning we give to our life depends on three things:interpersonal relationships (the heart), beliefs and values (the head) and action, what we like to do (the hand).

For many, family is seen as a consulting space, support and solidarity. More globally, it is seen as the first

space of trust for individuals far ahead of the public and governing bodies. A safe space to share ideas, 

moments and memories.

I think we all know we love our family, but in our busy life we sometimes forgot how good it feels to spend

some time as a family and share some family moments. We all should realise that making room for our family

is essential and that it can make us really happier.

#5 Surround yourself with nature

Nature is an effective anti-stress agent, whether we are talking about sun, trees or flowers.

I am sure that you noticed that you feel a lot better and you spend a nicer day when the weather is sunny. The link between a beautiful weather and morale was discovered by Norman Rosenthal a South African psychiatrist, in the 1980's. After emigrating from Johannesburg to New York, he felt depressed and sad over the winter. The winter blues was named for the first time "Saisonal Affective Disorder". Since then, many studies confirmed this link between sun and morale. Several studies show that the sun's rays affect the human morale via an hormone: the melatonin. When the latter is secreted too much, we have a malfunction of our chronobiological rythms and therefore we can be more tired, cranky and have the blues.

Plants also have an effect on our morale. Several studies confirmed that proximity with plants, trees and flowers have a soothing and benefactor power. Obviously we don't all have the opportunity to be surrounded by trees and flowers, but for those who live in town there is a solution! It was proven that artificial nature could have the same positive effect. So when you don't have time to have a walk in a park, don't hesitate to put nature inside your home! It's pretty and good for your serenity. ;)

#4 Give to help yourself

The general idea is that you should give until you succeed.  An author, Adam Grant, explaining in his forthcoming book Give and Take, how generosity helps you thrive, not fail - even in the most difficult situations. 

 

A simple thing that can really work: buy a cute top for your mother. Some researchers from the Harvard Business School, the Universityof British Columbia and Liège University have thus established that buying something for someone else - as long as it does not exceed a reasonable range of 2-10 pounds - makes you happier than buying the same thing for yourself . 

So don't hesitate to use your credit card for someone you love!

It will be beneficial for both of you!! :)

 

#3 Enjoy yourself

Take some time to do something you like! At least once a day. Some really simple things can make you happier.

For some it will be getting some exercise, going for a run, going to the gym... For some others it will be going out with some friends and just have fun. And for others it will be taking some time to relax by taking a very hot bath, reading a book or watching a series.

I personally think that all of them are really important for morale, as exercising make your body produce more endorphin (which makes you feel good) than usual and as going out and relaxing are needed to take out all the stress collected. 

What really works is to switch during the week: one day you get some exercise, another day you watch a movie and another one you go out to meet some friends.

What you need to do is find what little things make you happy! 

It doesn't necessary take a lot of time, for example I literally LOVE relaxing, so my little moment to enjoy myself is to have a cup of tea! How simple is it?

What about you? What is your little moment for yourself?

#2 Take care of yourself

Obviousness? Not in the facts.

It is proven that a lot of anxious people do the contrary. The more they feel bad, the more they mistreat themselves; and it becomes a vicious circle.

Wake up in the morning and try to take care of yourself, as an individual before anything else is more important than you think. Put on the clothes you like, doing up hair, put some makeup on for girls is an incredible help for those who lack self-confidence. Think of the difference you can make when you feel confortable and more confident! Your family, colleagues or classmates can see and feel the difference, and believe me it feels so good to see the difference in the way they look at you and talk to you.

I know that many people recommend not to pay attention to what others can think of yourself. But, in reality the way people look at you and can to judge you can affect you a lot. So for once, let’s use the power they have on you to make you feel better! ;)

Once again, what you need to do is just to make this 5-30 minutes effort, once a day, to feel more confident for the rest of the day! Try tomorrow and believe me you won't make the mistake of going to work or university feeling one level lower than everyone else.

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#1 Make the decision to be well

It is the first step in being happier. It may sound obvious, but most of us do not apply this rule of deciding to be well. 

A famous philosopher used to say: "You have to want to be happy and do the part of the work. If one remains in the position of the impartial spectator, leaving only the entrance doors open, it is the sadness that enters". What we have to remember of this quote is that it is always less tireing to accept misfortune, and letting it take over; but it obviously does not help our well-being.

Facts are that the mankind's evolution seems to have favored the existence of negative emotions, whose function is to increase the chances of survival of the species and left a much smaller spectrum for positive emotions and moods. But it doesn't mean that we have to live this way. 

Way too often, we increase the importance of our daily hassles, and realize afterwards how excessive  our reaction was. So let's fix it by relativising immediately. Let's not let some minor issues spoil our lives.

How many times did I feel bad because I did something wrong at work, or feel guilty because I had to do something for a friend or family and I didn't? A lot, but trust me it doen't help. 

Everyone can make mistakes or forget things. The important thing is that you will do the necessary to make it okay! And as long as you know that, you can feel better about it, so TRUST YOURSELF.

My point is that emotions can take us to dark places but it is our responsability to change what we feel in order to put things into perspective and let us the opportunity to be well. 

So decide to keep out negative emotions and only save space for positive ones'! 

In four words: DECIDE TO BE WELL!

Say hello to happiness!

I have to say that life doesn’t always turn out the way we expect it to. When we were younger we dreamt of becoming actresses, models or famous lawyers for the smartest. And in reality... We end up being regular girls or women, with studies, jobs, and sometimes with kids... Caught in our lives inevitably. We sometimes forget that in one way or another we chose the life we lead today. 

So what if we changed our choices, and decide to choose happiness instead? That is the decision I made a couple of weeks ago, when I got really tired of being tired, stressed and overbooked. I hope I will encourage you to make the same decision, by sharing some really easy tips to be HAPPIER and MORE CONFIDENT. 

We do not necessarily need to change our entire life, but only live it differently!